Raising Emotionally Healthy Boys: Parenting Tools For Feelings, Safety, And Communication

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Today, I sit down with Gloria Vanderhorst to talk about men’s health through a lens most people overlook: emotional development. In this episode, we focus on how society conditions boys from a young age, what that does to men as husbands and fathers, and why emotional suppression doesn’t just affect relationships—it can show up in the body, the mind, and the choices a man makes under stress.

Ms. Vanderhorst explains why boys and girls aren’t emotionally “the same,” and how early childhood environments can unintentionally punish a boy’s natural emotional range. We talk about the messages boys absorb—especially the idea that crying and tenderness are off-limits—and how that creates men who default to anger, shut down, or carry pain silently.

We also press into what change actually looks like in real life. Ms. Vanderhorst lays out practical ways men can re-access emotional awareness through reflection, developing a stronger feelings vocabulary, and finding support that respects the goal of becoming emotionally whole. We discuss how couples can do this together—how a partner can move past surface-level “headlines” and learn to create safety for deeper conversations without judgment, assumptions, or avoidance.

To close, we share actionable advice for parents. Ms. Vanderhorst shares how to respond when boys cry, when they go quiet, and how to intentionally build emotional language early so they don’t have to unlearn harmful patterns later. She also points listeners to her resources, including tools and downloads on her website, for anyone who wants to start strengthening emotional health in themselves, their marriage, or their family.

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